The Decision to Love
Starting a business is exciting. 🤩 You’re filled with adrenalin during the first few months to even the first year that you feel like you can do anything and everything. And so you do.
You’re filled with the high of creating something and having people appreciate and clamour for what you created.
You see all the possibilities, all the good that it brings.
Everything’s going well.
You’re loving what you’re doing.
You wake up filled with happiness, positivity, possibilities, endless energy and then it hits you like a brick wall -
It’s a like a switch that flipped, like a car that suddenly ran out of gas. You’re exhausted. You’re scrambling. You’re catching up. Doubts set in. It feels forced. You want to take a break. All of a sudden, it feels more like work.
Entrepreneurs are more than familiar with this feeling. Some call it “the dip” while others just call it a normal occurrence for growth. It’s when the dust settles and now it’s not all the glamour you thought it would be.
It’s the turning point. Do you stay or do you go?
I remember during a Theology class back in college, our professor described the difference between being “in love” and “love”. Yes, these two are different.
“In love” is an involuntary feeling. It’s how you feel when you’re starting a relationship. Everything is sunshine and rainbows. Nothing can go wrong. Life is perfect. This is just a feeling though, meaning it’s fleeting. It will come and go. This is where love comes in.
“Love” on the other hand is not a feeling. It’s a conscious decision. Shedding the fluff of being in love, you see both sides, the good and the bad, the fun and the serious, the easy and the difficult.
Do you stay? Or do you leave when the fun is over?
You decide to love someone or something. When you decide to stay and love someone, this is when the relationship grows. Now, you’re starting a whole new level.
Sadly, most leave before they see the beauty and the possibilities that come after making this decision.
In business and in relationships, are you in love or have you decided to love?