6 years ago, Alla saw me on the floor with a notebook and a pen, happily writing. Curious, she asked what it was and I showed her a list that I was making. I was recounting everything I accomplished the past year, no matter how small or big.
“I was able to buy a stove.” “I got the raise that I wanted.”
Yes - I wrote them as sentences, not just phrases. It makes a huge difference.
Anyway, she watched me and then I started telling her about this mini tradition I created about a year after I started working.
At the beginning of the year, I would write a list of what I wanted to accomplish. I wrote my goals for the year. During the year, when I accomplish something, I actually remember to cross it off that list and write the date on when I accomplished it. Then at the end of the year, I would recount everything I accomplished and compare that to the list I had at the beginning of the year.
It’s amazing to see how much you’ve done and how your goals actually evolve.
Every year, my list has evolved - from a single long list to bigger goals with the smaller steps outlined underneath it, to having different major categories (Personal Life, Career, etc.). It has also moved from my notebook to creating a copy in my computer to use as a desktop background to a vision board.
Back to when Alla took noticed, she got interested and joined in. From there, we would recount what I’ve accomplished, what she has accomplished and then we’ll create the following lists:
Michee’s Goals Alla’s Goals OUR Goals
It’s good to have you and your partner be aligned with what you both envision your year to be.
Plus, it’s amazing to hear what their goals are for themselves too. Not only will you be aware, you’d also know how you can support them so they can achieve those.
If you haven’t tried this, I highly recommend you do. Instead of New Year’s Resolutions, create goals and a vision for the year and look back at what you’ve done this year and celebrate it.
You ready? See y’all next year! I’m off to creating my lists.
