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Making Huge Decisions

“Why now?” and “Why not now?”

A couple of weeks ago, Alla and I reached a huge milestone. We finally bought a car, a brand new one. It’s been a couple of years now that we’ve been saving up for one and this year was the year that we really planned to buy it. We didn’t specify a month though and then a couple of weeks ago, we re-opened the discussion. Alla was the one who wanted to buy the car at that specific time. I wanted to see how much more we can save up for it and instead, buy it towards the end of the year. (Alla obviously won this discussion and debate haha).

Here are some things that Alla and I do whenever we need to make a decision.

  1. We thoroughly discuss it and even if we’re on the same side, one needs to play the devil’s advocate. This helps us see both sides - the pros and the cons of the decision that we’re about to make.

  2. The we also ask 2 questions, “Why now?” and “Why not now?”. Why do you want to do this now? What are all the reasons? Why can’t it wait? After that, we also ask the opposite. Why don’t you want to do this now? Why later? What happens in between?

  3. We let it sit for awhile. Sometimes, for just a few hours. Sometimes, overnight, a week. Then we re-open it and see where we both still stand.

Whenever you need to make huge decision, it helps to see what it would bring to the table. Just make sure that you don’t overthink it, aka let it paralyze you. In the end, you still need to make THAT decision. PS - Meet ExpecTony! (Yes, we named our car - a combination of Alla’s grandmother and my grandfather)

20180703 ExpecTony



Image by Kristopher Roller


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